Sunday, October 4, 2015

Why it’s okay to ignore anyone who has a problem with the way you look

...and other reasons you should not give a damn when you get free advice about the way you should look. 

It’s time to address something that’s been on my mind for a really long time. The only reason I haven’t done this before is because I didn’t want to sound repetitive or annoying but it has been incessantly jumping in my head and I have to talk about it here. 

In August, Nirali’s post on Buzzfeed about 11 curvy Indian instagrammers took me by surprise and I was completely overwhelmed but I noticed all the comments about fatness and the irritation with Buzzfeed for featuring plus-size women. At the time I just let it be because I kept telling myself: trolls are always hanging around, we just ignore them. After a few weeks I began noticing a pattern - any project done on body image, plus-size women, bulling about fatness got hoards of comments like “You’re fat, nothing else. Just go hit the gym.” It hit a point of absolute frustration when I read a comment about how fat-shaming is the one form of bullying that can save lives on a couple of posts including the recent video of Genny Zuniga. I’m specifically addressing fat-shaming but I know that this is the general attitude towards many things uploaded on the internet and while criticism is okay, bullying is not. 

I’m sick and tired of people thinking this is a joke or irrelevant because it’s not. It’s comments like this that make people feel like shit and spiral into a cave of sadness. It’s comments like this that cause fad diets and body image dysmorphia. It’s comments like this that ruin someone’s day. It’s comments like this that cause a space polluted with negative energy when it is already enveloped with cruelty. It seems like everyone has constantly been speaking about peace but no one is listening. It kills me to see so many people out there hating the person they see in the mirror. It angers me when I’m walking past the hall and I overhear an advertisement or TV show clearly indicating that the only way to a man’s heart is a diet. It’s frustrating when people at stores won’t stop staring at fat people like they don’t deserve to dress up the way they want.

I will say this a thousand times over - we have different bodies and it’s not a crime.

[I’ll be addressing this over a series of posts, so hang on]






Love,
Sonshu 

Outfit: Top: Westside ; Black vest, shoes, bag: street finds; Hairband: Masaba Lite