Everyday we meet so many people intentionally or unintentionally, we go to so many places, we gain plenty experiences. What's surprising is that everything has double standards. Walk into a shopping street/market dressed in bright hues and jazzy colours because you like them and people can't take their eyes off you. Walk into a mall, air-conditioned, with branded stores and uber urban society and you still get stares if you are donning a statement necklace or high heeled shoes.
You may say that everyone has a freedom to look, but how much is too much? Yes, some of us like to dress up and come summer we like to wear bright vibrant colours, maybe on and off we'd like wedges and maybe even glossy lips, but why should it matter to the passerby, or the so called on looker? I have often experiences un-comforting stares not only the boys but also the girls. I even remember once, this girl called for her entire family who was walking in front of her and told them to look at me. I almost felt like waving to them, pretending to be a celebrity. After all, all of them turning their heads and staring at me as I strut across shop to shop ignoring and positively accepting these glances.
Dress appropriate to the occasion/location is something everyone often says. But who defines what's appropriate. Isn't it subjective? A matter of personal opinion? Maybe to me, party wear would mean a dress, high-heeled shoes and make up, but maybe to another it means saree and a shawl. Everyone defines appropriateness in their own senses, then how is it fair to say that someone is not dressed appropriate or give some such looks that they feel like they've committed a crime.
Do we truly have freedom in this democratic country of ours? Where I reside, Bangalore is one of the more developed cities and if this is the condition here then I couldn't imagine what it would be in some rural areas where anyone dressed differently is an alien. I've heard from some of my friends that in many cities, they aren't even allowed to wear jeans. Yes, its culture, and I respect it, but I believe that culture is more choice than compulsion or have things changed? If someone feels comfortable in jeans why should they be banned from wearing it? Why should they undergo mental torture and non-acceptance from the society for something that's just a matter of like and dislike?
Experiences aren't few, in fact they are plenty. I could talk an entire day about all these varied experiences I've had, and maybe I will. I'm pretty sure that many other people face similar issues. Fellow fashion bloggers and people who like to dress up, are you willing to let go of your style to prevent these continued looks from strangers anywhere and everywhere? Yes it has sort of made me think twice every time I plan to wear something different and unique, but at the end I am not going to change myself for the society we live in and I hope you aren't too. People's eyes and what they see you as isn't the end of the world, you matter.
I strongly and firmly believe that everyone deserves a right to dress up the way they want to and lets not take this to the supposedly skimpy dressing which all rapists blame, because that would call for an entire article in itself. Maybe someone should do something about this, but maybe nothing can be done. After all the on looker will protest that they have the right to look and the dresser will say she has the right to dress. So at the end what does it all come down to?
Maybe ignoring them? Or maybe enlightening these people that its rude to stare like that. But I think neither one is a permanent solution to anything? After all how much can one ignore? And who all can we gather and enlighten? Some things are just never ending, and I guess this is one such problem for us fashion bloggers/style lovers.
But as I always believe, do what you want to, and if you really want it, nothing can stop you. Maybe play dress up at home, or boldly walk out and give an I-don't-care-look to them, it might just work.
What do you think? Have you faced something similar?
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